Negativity, responsibility & blame

If I Cut You, Will You Bleed For Me?Have you ever wondered why we exhibit negative behavior? Click to read more …

I’ve been following Heather’s very interesting blog for a while now, and am learning a lot. I have written about avoiding negative behaviour myself on this blog, but I’m aware that I don’t always do what I say. Sometimes my blog is angry in tone and I write negatively and offend people. With hindsight I realise that I could have approached the same topic positively, rather than seeming to react against things I disagree with.

Interestingly, Humans are Weird also blogged about negative behaviour just recently, so I feel a theme developing. It seems to me that we could all learn to get along much better together, but only if we approach the problem rationally like Heather and actually teach people how to do this. Just wanting to be nice isn’t enough.

Listening to some politicians arguing on the radio this morning, I know there’s a long way to go, so the sooner we get started the better.

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9 responses to “Negativity, responsibility & blame

  1. I think you want to stay in a place that is generally and specifically positive in attitude, and leave this attitude from time to time to become specifically negative in order to explore things. What you want to avoid is becoming generally negative in a fixed and obstinate way.

  2. Well … gosh … I’m not sure about this one, Steve. Having wrestled with delusional people and dealt with people who don’t often see the line between positive and negative … I wonder. I think of Abraham Lincoln and his outrage (negativity) on the floor of the Senate, “This nation cannot endure half slave and half free.” Said in harsh tones. Or Roosevelt’s, “This is a day that shall live in infamy.” Isn’t there a more yin and yang approach, where negativity and positivity (?) co-exist, albeit with acknowledge of limits and rules of polite engagement, etc.?

  3. Thank you, Steve. I tell you, my hardships have been rewarding, because I’ve learned humility, patience, understanding, compassion, and a profound appreciation for differences. Thank you for sharing me ☺️

  4. I think you do fine Steve. Reflection is a good thing – just don’t let futile regret get a hold on you.
    You possibly may like my debunk of Hawking… I think I managed to be positive in my two postings of it – I’d seen a post by another blogger – it just made me angry that Hawking uses his position as it seems to me sometimes – again and again… had to pipe up. I’d appreciate an honest look if you have time.
    ~ Eric

    Penrose re: Hawking’s statements
    http://hunt4truth.wordpress.com/2014/02/01/scientist-debunks-hawkings-no-god-needed-theory/

    My anger turned positive (I did my best): http://hunt4truth.wordpress.com/2014/01/30/stephen-hawking-heaven-is-a-place-for-people-afraid-to-die/

  5. Being positive is a good thing, however (not being a downer, simply a realist), sometimes people are angry. Recognising those feelings, owning them, and dealing with them is just as important as trying to stay positive. I think a lot of “staying positive” comes with time and maturity. As life progresses so do our respective outlooks on it.

  6. Life is a balance. We need positive people but also we learn from they cynics too. Life isn’t always glass full and the reality might suck but it forces you to view the situation, rationally. However, politicians. They work for themselves and not the people. It’s their way or no way. Now look. We are still in the same mess because no one wants to do teamwork.

  7. Well thanks to everyone who take the time to read and comment on this post. It’s generated a lot of likes and some very diverse opinions. Personally I found a lot to take away from Heather’s blog.

  8. Actually- I do not think you write negatively at all. Your posts always have a positive tone, without being ridiculously fluffy. I don’t subscribe to the ‘all is good man’ philosophy and ‘ all yoga is great’ brigade. It is good to remain open minded and still distinguish what is worthwhile and what is crap. And if you visit my blog, you will see I am a very fluffy sort of person…so my opinion on fluffydom really counts.

    • Lady Sarah, your blog is sophisticated and your taste impeccable and surely never flufffy. Thanks for your kind words. Heather’s blog post isn’t really at all about being “nice” and I worry that I may have completely misrepresented it here. Oh well.

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